...especially how we feel.
Some of us, as sensitive individuals, have navigated those waters of thinking and feeling for a long time, and have learned to find the peace in the chaos. Some of us are still working on it. So many of us are just now feeling the whole broad spectrum of what's possible - often in the course of an entire day. Some of the ways in which we feel are confusing, and our tendency is to think that how we feel somehow defines us. But really what is happening, is that we are receivers - much like signals and radio signals between television and radio stations, to televisions and radios.
With so much wireless technology, it's no wonder. However, this blog article will not be addressing that. Perhaps in another article. :) These things however, are helping to bring humanity to an understanding that there is much being broadcast, and that includes thoughts and feelings.
I won't get too much into the nuts and bolts of why it all works, at this point. But I will be offering some assistance for how to work through them. Oftentimes we have a feeling or an emotion that at times can feel incredibly overwhelming. Perhaps there was a triggering event, such as an argument or misunderstanding, perhaps not. In any case, the mind always tries to jump in and make sense of such overwhelm, and to be the control tower - and it does so by attaching MEANING to a feeling or emotion and also attaching it to a person or circumstance.
When this happens, it is important to simply notice the dialog going on in the mind, and to begin to connect the breath. Let the breath help you ride the waves of emotion and feeling without judgment, without quantifying or qualifying. Most importantly, remember that all states are fleeting, for better or for worse. We have a good time, it's fleeting. We want more. We have longing. The moment passes. Another moment, perhaps we are deciding, based on emotion and feeling, or interpretation of a situation or circumstance, that we are not having a good time. This too, shall pass. If we give ourselves the space, however, to fully feel the feeling and to utilize the breath as a vehicle to radically stay present with ourselves, a feeling of calm eventually comes over us, and it shifts. By doing that, it is not only possible but probable that you may not have to revisit that circumstance again with the same interpretation because you have integrated it as a simple memory.
It is that simple. Your breath IS that powerful. You have a built-in healing machine that can help you process the most painful of circumstances and digest them in smaller bites. Our tendency, however, is to barricade ourselves against painful circumstances, and just like a tidal wave hitting a wall, creates even bigger tidal waves (ripple effects) which continue until the energy has been fully discharged. It builds, otherwise. Soon, there will be greater understanding of the value and power of one's own breath. It has been around for thousands of years, but we have gotten so far away from the wisdom of it, and have instead employed lack of consciousness, unawareness, and we use any number of artificial and ineffective means to deal with very natural processes.
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Whatever it is we are perceiving in the world - be it the day, our job, our relationships, a walk in the park, laying on the beach . . . is an open invitation to open up to the dialog that is going on at all times. Your inner guidance, your Soul, is always speaking to you through your interactions and perceptions of the world. Two people could be viewing a painting. One sees nothing, or very little. The other one is transported. Why? Because one is perceiving from the ego-mind, and the other is listening to the inner self as it is perceiving.
We have two lenses through which to perceive reality: through the ego-mind, which finds fault with what it is perceiving; finds it flat and boring, "underwhelming," as it were - as I heard something referred to earlier today. Ego-mind is always seeking to be filled up, to be entertained, to be stimulated, in order to fill its own emptiness, which is like an abyss. There is no satisfying that part of ourselves.
The other lens, is through that of the Soul or Inner Self or "Big S" Self. Through this lens, the outer world is simply a tapestry of symbols and archetypes that spark a deeper story that wants to reveal itself from within. It doesn't matter if you are smelling a flower, listening to music, listening to the ocean, watching children play, or witnessing a battle. The way the Soul or Inner Self speaks to us is through the world of feeling, merely sparked by images, sensations, sounds, smells - but only if the Inner Self is given the attention and not the ego-mind. When we are disconnected from this, and moving through the ego-mind, everything appears and feels flat. But that is not the fault of the object or experience we are projecting upon, but rather the faultiness of the lens through which we are viewing. We are looking for stimulation TO feel something. But feeling does not come from outside of us - it does not come from the object or experience we are demanding to make us feel something from. It comes from going within, to being still, to listening. And doing so on a consistent basis. The noise or dissonance isn't "out there," it is in one's own mind.
So. . . we breathe. We connect the breath until the mind breaks free and there is nothing but the stillness and beauty of the Inner Self - the True Self. The ego-mind is an impostor and will betray you every time. So stop allowing it. Breathe. Be still. Listen(feel) to what is deeper that doesn't come from words. The words come later, from articulation. And even words cannot aptly describe the richness of the inner world.